【巧克力 x 131】

I have made a crazy last minute decision again today.
Driving all the way to Setia Alam to meet a friend just to have a meet up and to chat.
It wasn't quite a wise decision to do when you have to wake up early in the morning in the next day.
But I still gonna do it anyway... Hahaha!

She is considered one of my most ambitious friend I believe.
She is always decisive, clear with her direction, doing exceptionally well for her studies too.
I haven't been seeing her for months. I still remember how noisy she was on our last meet up.

#Keeping certain thoughts to yourself might be a good idea
But today she is so different. Less talking but more on wandering in her own world.
She said the working environment changed her into who she is today.
There are some thoughts should be kept in our own self rather than exposing all of them.
When you have the urge to say something, think twice...

Perhaps she is right. Sometimes we have to keep things back for ourselves.
We might not know when is our own words gonna be use against ourselves in future.
Her words always make me think of myself...
This has always be a known weakness of mine...

#Be clear on your direction and make sure you work for it
This trip is worth travel, which I gain inspiration from her.
She might be younger than me but not less mature than I do.
She knows what is Liked and what is Need.
Something you like to do might not be the same with what you need to do.
So don't frus over these, because you eventually have to go through what you need rather than what you like.

Be passionate on what you are doing.
Nothing is more important than keeping your focus and go for what you are aiming at.
Losing focus can happen very often but always go back to the main reason on why you started it.
That reason is why you started it so make sure you end it by answering it.

# Learn how to look into the future rather than the past.
I did lose focus, I did lose passion...
But all these gonna be over soon...
I have to put these into the past and work for a better future.
Your past may be a gauge for other's future expectation on you...
But it shouldn't be a stumble block to stop you from moving further.

Your past is unchangeable but your future is yet to be seen.
Moaning the past won't make your future look much better.
So make sure you start working on something so you can be proud of in the future.

#You can't make the whole world to agree with your doings
You can have your own freedom to judge on others.
Just like how the others doing the same on you.
But you just have to be firm on your own decision to do things.
There are many people out there not knowing which direction they are heading to.

These people can be hazardous sometimes.
They can influence you with their mindset to ensure you don't be too excellent.
Yes maybe that's not their intention but things just happen.
Never lower your expectation on yourself because of others did.
You have to be responsible on your own future.
So be firm! Stand up and fight for it.

【巧克力 x 130 】

昨晚在车龙里异常专注地听988陈峰的节目…

基本上他强调的大概是:

1. 两个人若在一起得有对彼此的基本信任…

与其花心思和时间去调查追踪，不如把时间放在有利于提高自身价值的事情… 

把对方绑着，对你对他或她都不会带来好处，只有更多的争执和骂战…

2. 两个人都需保留自己的空间，生活圈子… 

很多时候我们会把自己的思路和想法套在对方身上，决定对方应该怎样又怎样…

到头来一味的责备忽略了他想要的反应…

3. 两个人的相处之道没有绝对，而且因人而异… 

若是两人都能包容对方的坏习惯，基本上两个人在相处时是不存在问题的…

但是很多时候事情并没那么美好，世界上也没有两个人是100%一样的...

就算有也不代表两个人不会有争执...

所以学习如何去包容和改变才是让感情线细水长流的皇道…

说说当然容易…又有多少人是真正能够把这些想法付诸行动的呢…？

人与人的相处之道是一门学问... 而这学问没有课本和指南...

需要你用心去探索，用心去发现，再用心去改变...